January 17, 2018

Long Distance Tips + Advice

Happy Wednesday friends!

Let's face it, long distance relationships SUCK. I mean who likes to be away from their S/O? RJ and I started doing long distances after he moved at the end of August and we'll have to continue to do so while I'm staying in Florida (p.s. if you're confused why I'm moving to Florida, check out Monday's post!).

I do have to say, it was REALLY tough the first two months. I mean going from seeing someone every day to maybe every two weeks if I'm lucky was tough. But, I do have to say it gets a little easier. Today I wanted to share some tips on how to survive being in a long distance relationship to hopefully make it a little more bearable! 

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Communication is key
Communication is key in any relationship period, but the fact that you don't get to see each other often it's even more important. We're so lucky to live in the age where texting, Facet\Time, Skype, Snapchat, etc. exists. Not only do we get to talk on the phone and hear their voice, but we have the option to see their face over FaceTime or Skype as well. 

I know it can be challenging to find time to text back with a busy schedule or figure out when the other person is free, but try coordinating and finding a set time to talk to each other every day. For RJ and I, we both tend to get off of work around the same time every day and we always call each other on our drive home (with Bluetooth of course, safety first!!). This has worked out great because we know that we have a set time every day that we're both free to catch up and talk about our day. 

So try finding a time period that both of you can carve out to chat and catch up. This will give both of you a piece of mind to see what's going on in each other's lives as well have something to look forward to every day. 

Trust is everything
Let's be honest, the scary thing about being in a LDR is not knowing what the other person is up to at all times. You both need to establish a solid amount of trust with each other because nothing is worse than constantly worrying if your S/O is up to trouble. 

Surround yourself with friends

This was a bit harder for me at first. If you read last Friday's post, I opened up on how I have trouble with putting myself out there, even if it's to hang out with friends. For the first few months, I was constantly trying to keep myself busy with work and working out. I would work 50+ hours because I didn't want to sit at home alone. I don't mean to share all of this to be a "woe is me" but more so to share that we all lows in our life, and that's ok. 

It wasn't until recently in the past month when I started reaching out more and surrounding myself with friends. It really does help to have someone to talk to and help the ease of being alone all of the time. I'm so thankful to have such wonderful people in my life who make me feel so uplifted. This has also given me the opportunity to strengthen my relationships with my friends because let's be honest, they were slacking since I'd spend all of my free time with RJ when he was here.

So I would recommend using this time to catch up with a friend you may have drifted away from, and be around people who make you happy. 

The little things
It's the little things that mean the most, especially when you're away from each other for a while. A friend on Twitter had suggested having a movie date with your S/O where you both would watch the same movie and be on Skype. RJ would have "dinner" dates where we would Skype and eat dinner together. Seems a little silly, but it's these little moments that make being away a little easier. 

Stay positive
It's so easy to get in your head an be sad about the whole situation of being apart, but that'll just make the situation so much harder. Stay positive and think about the brighter side of things. Think of this an opportunity to grow and learn more about yourself, to strengthen your relationship with others, to take time for yourself. Also, think about how it'll be 10x greater to see each other when you do get reunited!

Have an end date
Whether it be the end date to finally be together and no longer too long distance or short-term date of seeing each other again, setting dates to be reunited makes the time apart from a little more bearable. Because nothing is worse than constantly wondering how long the LDR is going to go on, am I right? 

And those are my tips on how to survive being in a long-distance relationship. I know, it's tough and there are some hard days, but in the grand scheme of things, this will just be a little bump in the road you need to get over. Stay positive and things will work itself in the end!

Are any of you in / have been in a long distance relationship? If so, let me know in the comments down below! I'd love to hear your thoughts and any tips you have that helped you out! I hope those of you in a LDR have found this helpful and as always, thank you for reading!


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